Everyone gets discouraged at times however
there are a number of key differences between people who keep
on going and those who give up:
1 Focus On Your Goal Not On Your Problems
One of my mentors is a highly successful property
developer and he loves solving problems. All day long he can
take on one problem after the next and just keep going.
How does he do this when most people would
feel overwhelmed?
He understands the importance of focus. He
never loses sight of his goals and his goals so excite him
that problems are nothing more than stepping stones to the
achievement of his outcomes.
If you are feeling discouraged it is very
likely because your focus is on what has not worked; your
setbacks and your fears.
Discipline your mind to focus on your goals
and discouragement will fade into the distance.
Expect to learn by trying new things and to
find out what works by making mistakes. Then keep adjusting
your approach until you get the results you want.
I went from being shy with people to developing
confidence and charm by trying new approaches day after day
until I found what worked for me.
It is only because I knew what my goal was
that I was able to deal with the frustrations and discouragement
along the way.
2 Ask For Help
You do not have to deal with everything alone.
Ask for help from someone who is qualified to help you and
act on their good advice.
Two minds are better than one especially when
your mind is full of discouragement.
And, you will feel stronger knowing that someone
else is backing you, keen to see you succeed.
When you think about it.
The only thing stopping your from getting
from where you are to where you want to be is -- learning!
Learning an effective approach.
If you do not know the answer why waste time
guessing when you can open your mouth and ask?
For example, say there is a person in your
community you just cannot get along with. Find some people
who have a good rapport with that difficult person and get
their input.
You may have got the wrong end of the stick
for some reason and as a result you cannot get anywhere with
that person. Whereas with the right outlook you may have no
problem getting rapport.
You may never know what to do unless you ask!
3 Learn How Your Mind Works
Once you take charge of your thoughts and
your emotions you will be able to deal with whatever challenges
come your way. Until that happens you will always be at the
mercy of the ups and downs of life.
The most valuable gift you can give yourself
is the ability to master your emotional state.
The moment I finally understood how to do
this was the day my life changed forever. I discovered how
to effectively deal with any challenge without becoming overwhelmed.
Until you learn how to run your brain it really
is like having a super computer without a user manual. The
power to persist when you get frustrated will never be available
to you until you commit to learning how to manage your thoughts
and feelings.
Feelings of frustration, discouragement and
overwhelm are not random occurrences. It all comes down to
how you use your mind.
Take control of your emotional state and life
becomes a lot easier.
And when you are in a great emotional state
it is hard to lack confidence, it is hard to feel nervous
meeting new people and it becomes very easy to enjoy expressing
your opinions.
About the author:
Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert.
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